5 Great Ways To Deal With A Personal Crisis

Five Great Ways to Deal With a Personal Crisis



"At every crisis in one's life,

it is absolute salvation to have

some sympathetic friend to whom

you can think aloud without restraint or misgiving."



-Woodrow Wilson



Dealing with a personal crisis is always difficult, whether it is financial, emotional or physical. Mounting debts, being physically displaced from your home, a struggling relationship, or illness can trigger an avalanche of emotions that can eat away at you until you reach breaking point. A personal crisis can create a chain of events that leads to nervous breakdown, anxiety or depression, so coping with it quickly is crucial.



This is not always easy and the days of others saying 'Snap out of it' are long gone but, with a few tips, you can gradually work your way out of the situation.



* Indecision Is Not Your Friend: One of the biggest problems arising from a personal crisis is not knowing what to do. If you are faced by decision, many people, instead of worrying about the eventual outcome, worry about making the wrong choice and hesitate, ultimately doing neither. The mind likes finality and, by avoiding action through fear of possible outcomes, you are denying closure and helping the problem grow. It is an old concept, but doing something is almost always better than doing nothing and, even if you do make a wrong decision, you can take action to fix it or put it right.



* Denial: One of the more common reactions when dealing with a personal crisis is hiding away and pretending that it isn't happening. One example that increasingly crops up, especially during the current economic crisis, is financial worries and debt. Too many people hide credit card bills and letters from the mortgage company, hoping that it will all go away. This creates uncertainty, because you know that the problem is there and it eats away, creating low-level anxiety. Facing problems is the only way to deal with them - it is better to take short-term pain than a long, drawn out agony waiting for the inevitable.



* Feeling Overwhelmed: Often, a personal crisis makes you feel overwhelmed and you feel like you have too much to handle. Planning is one way to overcome this, breaking the problem down into manageable chunks and tackling them one at a time. As you slowly start to work your way through and gain confidence, you become a little more positive and feel a little less apprehensive.



* You Are Not Alone: One of the worst things that you can do is to try to handle it alone. Often, men refuse to talk about things because of the alpha male mentality, not wanting to appear weak in front of their friends. Women often don't want to burden their family and struggle on alone. Without any release for negative emotions, they will eventually reach breaking point, often with devastating circumstances. Talking with someone can help to relieve the burden, and feeling that you are not alone is a big step dealing with illness, financial difficulties, or relationship concerns, Sometimes, it is just a matter of catharsis and having somebody listen as you unburden your soul. At other times, you become so wrapped up in your problems that you can see no way out, and another perspective can help you navigate through the despair.



* Inadequacy and Blame: Self-blame is one of the most insidious emotions that can overwhelm you as you deal with a personal crisis. Blaming yourself for your situation is common and this can eat away at your wellbeing. A broken relationship always becomes your fault, a financial crisis becomes, "If only I hadn't spent that money." Putting the past behind you is extremely difficult, because self-blame is a perfectly normal condition. In extreme cases, this blame seems ridiculous to the outsider but makes perfect sense to the sufferer. It is important to try to remember that the past is unchanging; you cannot go back and change things and, by focusing on the past, you are denying yourself a future.

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